Lillian B. Rubin, Ph. D.

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Artist & Writer
January 13, 1924 - June 17, 2014

What does one post on the website of a dearly beloved mother?

How to make meaning out of deep sadness for those who never met Lil but know and appreciate her work…

     for those who just happen by Lil’s website in a search for meaning about relationships, aging, race & class in America…

     for those Lil touched during an amazing life and to whom Lil meant so much…

Maybe that’s an impossible task.  So I will simply leave a daughter’s words for an amazing mother.

You were beautiful at 19 and at 90.  You gave me strength, courage & love. Being your daughter wasn’t always easy, but what a fantastic journey these 65 years have been. 

I cry knowing we’ll never laugh & talk together again.  Then I laugh about the silly stuff you & I shared & all your funny loving quirks.  Then I read just one more email from yet another person whose life you touched deeply, about why you were important, about how deeply you were loved & about your pride & joy in me…and I reach for the telephone to share the wonderful words with you.  At those moments, reality sets in.  And while I’ll never again be able to share the love & the pain, the triumphs & defeats, the joys & sorrow with you on this earth, I know you hear me.

As we all mourn in our various ways, we take comfort knowing you died as you wanted-in your home, in your bed, with dignity, living independently until the end.  

It’s now our challenge to celebrate your life by living our own with the courage, tenacity & principles with which you lived yours.

With great love I say goodbye from this world to the best mom and my best friend.

Marci Rubin
June 23, 2014


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